The House in Forest Lake
Mar. 21st, 2006 09:53 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
amberica...that's right, the one I've been agonizing about. (Not so much on my LJ, but more in person and on the phone with family and friends.) Let me refresh your memory with a LINK.
Goddammit. It was FAR nicer than I even expected it would/could be. I was really shocked at what a difference there is between seeing pictures and video, and just being in a place. I guess that's kind of always the case, but it was still really shocking for this one.
I did like it, it was nice... BUT... well, Angela (our sweetheart realtor - "That's Our Gal" as I call her) was putting a bit of pressure on us. I picked up on it fairly early during our walkthrough, but Jon didn't until she started asking us to sign a lot of papers. Ack! Jon thought I was just being a spoilsport at first, but as we were driving home, he said he understood why I was saying/doing certain things, now that he finally picked up on the pressure too.
Don't worry, we are not trapped in anything yet. We have basically stated on paper that, yeah, we think it's an interesting house, and yeah, we might want to talk more seriously about it. No money has exchanged hands, and nothing happened that can't be undone.
Nevertheless, Jon was a bit upset because he really just wanted to do another walkthrough, this time with me so that we could both know what it was like, and then be able to go home and talk about it on the same level.
It is good that I like it a lot more than I even thought I would - basement shower and all... It is good that Jon is expressing the same sentiment that I've kind of secretly been harboring - that we sort of hope someone else comes in and "buys it out from under us" so that we can wait a bit longer for the "Right House" to come along and work out in its own time. Things right now with this particular house are feeling just a bit too pushed/rushed, and this is not the way we would prefer to do things.
I'm very glad that we are still on the same page about this issue. The last thing I wanted to do was butt heads and make it a stressful situation between us. I can admit that I definitely see a lot of the good in this place, and why he prefers it over the newer houses; and he talked to me a lot about how he can definitely see the things that concern me about it, AND he can acknowledge and even agree with a lot of the nice things I prefer about the newer houses that I really like. We're at a good spot right now. The only thing I don't like is that we are feeling external pressure from our realtor... but we made a decision to make a pretty lowball offer on the place and if they don't accept it, GOOD - we're out of the woods... and if they DO accept it, GOOD! We'd get a great deal on a place that is really pretty nice.
Plus, and I have to keep reminding myself of this, it is only our FIRST home. We don't HAVE to stay in it forever, we will not ever be trapped there if it just doesn't work out after the first few years.
Will post more as I get more to post.
Goddammit. It was FAR nicer than I even expected it would/could be. I was really shocked at what a difference there is between seeing pictures and video, and just being in a place. I guess that's kind of always the case, but it was still really shocking for this one.
I did like it, it was nice... BUT... well, Angela (our sweetheart realtor - "That's Our Gal" as I call her) was putting a bit of pressure on us. I picked up on it fairly early during our walkthrough, but Jon didn't until she started asking us to sign a lot of papers. Ack! Jon thought I was just being a spoilsport at first, but as we were driving home, he said he understood why I was saying/doing certain things, now that he finally picked up on the pressure too.
Don't worry, we are not trapped in anything yet. We have basically stated on paper that, yeah, we think it's an interesting house, and yeah, we might want to talk more seriously about it. No money has exchanged hands, and nothing happened that can't be undone.
Nevertheless, Jon was a bit upset because he really just wanted to do another walkthrough, this time with me so that we could both know what it was like, and then be able to go home and talk about it on the same level.
It is good that I like it a lot more than I even thought I would - basement shower and all... It is good that Jon is expressing the same sentiment that I've kind of secretly been harboring - that we sort of hope someone else comes in and "buys it out from under us" so that we can wait a bit longer for the "Right House" to come along and work out in its own time. Things right now with this particular house are feeling just a bit too pushed/rushed, and this is not the way we would prefer to do things.
I'm very glad that we are still on the same page about this issue. The last thing I wanted to do was butt heads and make it a stressful situation between us. I can admit that I definitely see a lot of the good in this place, and why he prefers it over the newer houses; and he talked to me a lot about how he can definitely see the things that concern me about it, AND he can acknowledge and even agree with a lot of the nice things I prefer about the newer houses that I really like. We're at a good spot right now. The only thing I don't like is that we are feeling external pressure from our realtor... but we made a decision to make a pretty lowball offer on the place and if they don't accept it, GOOD - we're out of the woods... and if they DO accept it, GOOD! We'd get a great deal on a place that is really pretty nice.
Plus, and I have to keep reminding myself of this, it is only our FIRST home. We don't HAVE to stay in it forever, we will not ever be trapped there if it just doesn't work out after the first few years.
Will post more as I get more to post.
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Date: 2006-03-21 10:04 am (UTC)Are you guys going to get married before you buy a house?
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Date: 2006-03-21 10:07 am (UTC)We have an appointment to meet and discuss this very issue tonight from 6:30 to 7:30 - it's in our Outlook calendars! /geek
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Date: 2006-03-21 10:53 am (UTC)Guess I don't have much room to talk, since my ex & I used to send e-mail to each other from our separate offices in the same house...
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Date: 2006-03-21 10:58 am (UTC)Hey, at least the sex is spontaneous! LOL
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Date: 2006-03-21 11:08 am (UTC)I hate you.
Not really, of course. ;)
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Date: 2006-03-21 11:22 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-03-21 12:00 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-03-22 01:41 am (UTC)to bad about the realtor tho- I think some of it has to be "I see and do this all the time. What's the big deal?"
Are you into spontaneous knitting, too? *smirk*
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Date: 2006-03-22 01:39 pm (UTC)you have to be firm with them.
tell them their pushiness is putting you off the house - that'll make them back off. ;o)